“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
~Dalai Lama XIV
I tend to be a worrier. Sometimes I worry a lot. I don’t usually worry about things over which I have no control, but instead I fret over the things I actually can do something about.
I somehow believe that if I worry about something I will find a solution to my problem.
But it never seems to work out that way. In fact the more I worry, the more stressed I become and the more I shut down.
Relaxing into the situation, on the other hand, usually yields results. A calm, quiet mind is a fertile field for finding solutions.
It’s often difficult to get to that calm state when everything is skewed and your mind is buzzing. But I have found there are several things I can do to regain some peace and inner clarity. Here are my top six:
- Get out in nature – Nature is my greatest source for inner strength. Going out in the woods or to the water calm me almost instantly and help to clear my head.
- Meditate – This is a soothing balm for overactive thoughts. When meditating, I am forced to slow down and breathe. Even when my monkey mind won’t shut up, just going through the motions of meditating helps me to tame the worrying.
- Change environments – Sometimes just taking myself to a different location gives me a different perspective. My favorite coffee shop, an interesting boutique, the big box book store are all sources of inspiration for me.
- Exercise – There is almost no way you can worry when you are exercising. You have to focus your thoughts on your body, your movements, your form, and you no longer have the time to focus on your problems.
- Take a nap – SARK wrote an entire book on the value of taking a nap. She believes regular nap taking can change your life. That’s good enough for me!
- Pray – When I feel that there is nothing else I can do about a problem, I pray. Well, actually I pray all the way through the solution-generating process. Prayer connects me to a higher power…an all-knowing source of solutions to all my worries.
These are my tips for helping to reduce worry in my life. Please leave your suggestion for how you deal with the situations in your life that cause you to worry